Category Archives: English

Codependency issue is a complicated and rather difficult one to solve. It negatively affects your life and the lives of people around you. I have worked with many individuals over the years, including people with codependency issues, and I noticed something about them. I believe the typical behavior of codependent people is “blaming others” aboutContinue reading “Codependency issue – What is it and how to solve it?”

Many of us tend to avoid things we don’t want to do. Whether we eventually complete the things we avoid or not, avoidance is one of the most common behaviors of the human being. In this post, I’d like to analyze more about this behavior. If you think a little deeper about what avoidance is,Continue reading “Avoidance – Is it helpful or not?”

I recently watched a YouTube video in which a number of black people were interviewed about the reasons why they moved to Asian countries, including Japan. The point of the video was to convey the message that all of the interviewees responded that the main reason they moved to Asian countries and continued to stayContinue reading “Systematic racism vs. systematic sexism – What is the difference in various places in the world?”

The other day, I came across a talk about good coaching vs. bad coaching in sports. Two coaches who were discussing had coached national-level players, and they both had some experience coaching overseas as well. Thus, they could compare different coaching styles in other parts of the world. By listening to this talk, I learnedContinue reading “Emotional manipulation vs. emotional regulation”

Many people with anxiety or depression seem to try to control the symptoms rather than the core issues. In some cases, people are afraid of facing the root cause of their problems, but I notice that a lot of people have not realized that most of their symptoms have origins – such as specific traumaticContinue reading “EMDR therapy is like chiropractic for mental health”

There are certain difficulties in declining other people’s requests or offers in most cultures. In some cultures, you have no option to say no at times, even if you want to, because of the social norms or hierarchies. In the U.S., however, it is acceptable for people to express their own opinions in general asContinue reading “How to say “No” more effectively”

Have you ever felt like you were being treated unfairly by someone, a group of people, or a society? I’m sure you have – at least a few times, if not a number of times. Regardless of your experience, let’s think about different kinds of unfair situations. I think they can be roughly divided intoContinue reading “How to deal with unfairness”

As many of you are aware, it can be challenging to have a satisfying long-term relationship with food. In our lifetime, it is normal to have a period when we overeat or undereat. Even if you are never diagnosed with an eating disorder, you may have had a time you could not stop eating despiteContinue reading “How to have a good relationship with food”

Have you ever heard of the term “Common roles in an addicted family household”? According to Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse, the founding Chairperson of the National Association of Children of Alcoholics, there are 6 common roles in an addicted (or dysfunctional) family. You can read about it in detail on American Addiction Centers website, but I willContinue reading “What is your role in the family? – Sports analogy”

Are you currently having a hard time dealing with your boss or some of your coworkers? If not right now, have you ever? To be honest, I have, both in Japan and in the U.S. Over the years, I have worked with many types of bosses from various cultures – from really difficult ones toContinue reading “How to deal with a difficult boss”